A few women have in the past proposed to men in Nigeria. Over the last few weeks, the audacity of any woman proposing to a man, has become a debate among many Nigerians. This debate was triggered by a viral video showing an unidentified young woman in high heels dropping to her knees to propose to her boyfriend, who turned her down elder news in economic times forex at the Ikeja City Mall, Lagos few weeks ago.
But while these kinds of rejections may have placed a dark cloud on the idea of a woman proposing to a man, some women have had successes. In June 2017, Edo comedienne, Etinosa Idemudia, took the bull by the horns and went down on bended knee to propose to her boyfriend, Bucci Franklin, in a restaurant, in the full glare of public attention. Sometimes take the bull by the horns. I was so nervous but he said yes!
In 2015, a Nigerian woman won the admiration of many, when she went down on bended knee at her place of work and proposed to her boyfriend. Her photographs, which circulated on blogs and news sites at the time, showed her co-workers gushing about the romantic gesture as her boyfriend accepted the proposal with a kiss on the forehead. But some women, who shared their opinions with Saturday PUNCH, supported the idea of a woman proposing to a man. According to an entrepreneur and marketer, Omolara Seweje, women who take such steps are brave and should be praised. She, however, discouraged women from taking their proposal to a public space. The problem is that as Africans, many are still very conservative in their thinking. But in the world we live in today, there is nothing wrong with a woman deciding to propose to a man she wishes to spend the rest of her life with.
A woman proposing to a man is not a big deal but there are many other ways a woman could ask a man to marry her without asking directly. I would urge any woman to do the same but they should be wise about it. A broadcaster, Foluso Ojo, shared the same sentiments. She told our correspondent that many women who criticise women who propose to men would probably do the same thing if not because they are still being caged by societal opinion. She said this explained why Nigerians go abroad to do things they could not do at home due to societal rules.
In this new age, if you are interested in a man, there is nothing wrong with telling a man how you feel. Where in the religious books or in our constitution is it written that it is the man who should always propose? Men these days aren’t all that responsible, I mean they don’t want to get responsibly attached. Why waste the precious time of a woman in question if you are actually just passing time with her?
I salute the bravery of any woman who decides to propose to a man. If she is turned down, it would be good if she knew before it takes too long. There is nothing new under the sun any longer. I have also seen a woman propose to a man before even though it was not publicly. Today, they are happily living together as man and wife. I am all for doing whatever makes you happy.
If a woman thinks she is comfortable proposing to her man, I would say, go for it. Life is too short to live by archaic rules that would stop your happiness. Another woman, Jane Anagboso, said even though women have to be cautious not to incur humiliation, there is nothing wrong with a woman proposing to a man. But men, who spoke with Saturday PUNCH, gave contrary opinions. A public servant, Kolade Peters, explained that no matter how much traditions evolve, he would not support a woman proposing to a man.